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JohnOAS
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Posted - 10/21/2007 :  18:49:48  Show Profile  Visit JohnOAS's Homepage Send JohnOAS a Private Message  Reply with Quote
OFFC's comment, and the discussion that followed it (here) prompted me to start a new topic.

This is my opinion, but I'm happy to be persuaded otherwise:

It's never too early, with the caveat that you have to be sensitive to the intersection of your medium/platform of choice and those that are the target of your humour, or at least likely to be affected by it.

With that in mind, when I'm particularly sensitive to something because of various happenings in my personal world, I don't go around expecting others to read my mind or tread softly around me because they should know better.

In fact, and I'm not sure if this is a good or a bad thing, but it annoys the hell out of me when people treat me differently because of something when I've given no indication that this would be appreciated. I know sometimes people mean well, but sometimes getting on with things "as normal" is part of dealing with things.

Looking back at that those last two paragraphs, that's all a little vague, I know. I could add some specific examples, but I think what I've said makes sense without them. Let me know if you disagree.



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HalfMooner
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Posted - 10/21/2007 :  19:47:08   [Permalink]  Show Profile Send HalfMooner a Private Message  Reply with Quote
The "Too Soon Problem" is one of the most difficult conundrums in humor science.

I more of less agree that it's never "too soon" to joke of tragedy. But that's always going to be a tough, subjective call. I personally give extra slack to artists, comedians, and writers on this topic, just because I know how impossible it is to draw definite lines that should not be crossed. Also, sometimes, giving maximum offense is quite intentional.

But people also reserve and deserve a right to be offended. Even I can be offended. Anyone doing humor should be ready to suffer slings and arrows as a regular consequence of their "craft." I just try to bear in mind that the best humor presses against, or transgresses, the lines of decency. If the humorist is not pressing the limits, you get Dennis the Menace, not Bart Simpson. As a wannabe humorist, I'd rather offend people (deliberately or unintentionally) than bore them. Unfortunately, I often manage to do both.

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Edited by - HalfMooner on 10/21/2007 19:57:20
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The Rat
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Posted - 10/21/2007 :  20:15:39   [Permalink]  Show Profile  Visit The Rat's Homepage Send The Rat a Private Message  Reply with Quote
There's no easy answer to this question, circumstances dictate it more than anything else. If a newscaster was making jokes about a tragedy within days, everyone would scream. But a bunch of blue-collar guys having lunch would start with the gallows humour within minutes (been there, done that). And sometimes it's fitting. When Rodney Dangerfield died most people were making jokes as soon as they could think of them, because they knew that he wouldn't want it any other way.

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Chippewa
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Posted - 10/21/2007 :  20:24:19   [Permalink]  Show Profile  Visit Chippewa's Homepage Send Chippewa a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Sometimes when I'm faced with a problem such as this, I consult the insights of the masters.
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HalfMooner
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Posted - 10/21/2007 :  20:44:10   [Permalink]  Show Profile Send HalfMooner a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Originally posted by The Rat

When Rodney Dangerfield died most people were making jokes as soon as they could think of them, because they knew that he wouldn't want it any other way.
I figured Jerry Falwell would want the same.


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Posted - 10/21/2007 :  20:45:47   [Permalink]  Show Profile Send HalfMooner a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Originally posted by Chippewa

Sometimes when I'm faced with a problem such as this, I consult the insights of the masters.
Those guys were too dignified.


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Dave W.
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Posted - 10/21/2007 :  21:17:15   [Permalink]  Show Profile  Visit Dave W.'s Homepage Send Dave W. a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Gilbert Gottfried:
Gottfried famously told the venerable Aristocrats joke at a Friars Club roast of Hugh Hefner just three weeks after the September 11 terrorist attacks. It's been suggested that this performance inspired Penn Jillette and Paul Provenza to produce a film about the joke. However, Jillette and Provenza point out that they had already filmed Gottfried. In fact, it was their project that inspired Gottfried to choose that joke as his response to the audience's claim that there are certain unspoken limits in comedy. Gottfried initially began his performance joking that he had intended to catch a plane but could not get a direct flight because "they said they have to stop at the Empire State Building first." As audience members responded with gasps and cries of "Too soon!", he launched into the Aristocrats joke, effectively winning back the audience and having roastmaster Rob Schneider literally falling out of his chair laughing. When the laughter and applause had subsided, Gottfried commented, "They probably won't show this on TV," to more laughter and applause.
The clips in The Aristocrats (NSFW) don't really do it justice, I don't think.

What's the point? The point is that three weeks after 9/11, professional comedians were howling "too soon!" at a one-liner about 9/11. But minutes later, those same comedians were howling with laughter at what is probably the most tasteless joke in the world (depending on who tells it, but it usually beats the Chihuahua joke hands down).

Just goes to show that there's no accounting for taste.

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HalfMooner
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Posted - 10/22/2007 :  03:23:25   [Permalink]  Show Profile Send HalfMooner a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Gottfried's my hero.

He knew, on a deep, visceral level, that those people needed to laugh. Even after his utterly humiliating "too soon" failure, he plowed on relentlessly. He was like a physician with a terrible medication that he must administer. To met my mixaphors: He knew that the vein of gold was in the dangerous, collapsing, part of the mine.


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BigPapaSmurf
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Posted - 10/22/2007 :  06:19:48   [Permalink]  Show Profile Send BigPapaSmurf a Private Message  Reply with Quote
My favorite is from South Park, during Satan's super sweet 16 costume party, Satan is notified that someone has shown up wearing a Crocodile Hunter costume and its really offending some of the guests.(Show came out the week after his death) So Satan confronts him and asks him to leave, the guy informs satan that he IS the Croc Hunter....Satan: "oh well then, dude, no costume, you gotta go"

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BigPapaSmurf
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Posted - 10/22/2007 :  06:22:20   [Permalink]  Show Profile Send BigPapaSmurf a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Here's the Universal Law of Too Soon(which I just invented)

Beware, while it is never too soon to tell a joke about any tragedy, it is also never too soon for someone to kick your ass for telling it.

"...things I have neither seen nor experienced nor heard tell of from anybody else; things, what is more, that do not in fact exist and could not ever exist at all. So my readers must not believe a word I say." -Lucian on his book True History

"...They accept such things on faith alone, without any evidence. So if a fraudulent and cunning person who knows how to take advantage of a situation comes among them, he can make himself rich in a short time." -Lucian critical of early Christians c.166 AD From his book, De Morte Peregrini
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HalfMooner
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Posted - 10/22/2007 :  07:54:32   [Permalink]  Show Profile Send HalfMooner a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Originally posted by BigPapaSmurf

Here's the Universal Law of Too Soon(which I just invented)

Beware, while it is never too soon to tell a joke about any tragedy, it is also never too soon for someone to kick your ass for telling it.
Exactly right!


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Cuneiformist
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Posted - 10/22/2007 :  08:49:32   [Permalink]  Show Profile Send Cuneiformist a Private Message  Reply with Quote
As a kid, I recall hearing jokes the day after the Challenger explosion. And I think on news stations and such, there were discussions about the fact that people would be joking about it so soon.
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astropin
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Posted - 10/22/2007 :  10:30:11   [Permalink]  Show Profile Send astropin a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Originally posted by Cuneiformist

As a kid, I recall hearing jokes the day after the Challenger explosion. And I think on news stations and such, there were discussions about the fact that people would be joking about it so soon.


I remember that....I was in college when that happened. I swear it seemed like only hours before we heard:

"What does NASA stand for?.......Need another seven astronauts."

"How man astronauts can you fit in a compact car?........11; two in the front, two in the back and seven in the ash tray"

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H. Humbert
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Posted - 10/22/2007 :  10:47:35   [Permalink]  Show Profile Send H. Humbert a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Originally posted by astropin

Originally posted by Cuneiformist

As a kid, I recall hearing jokes the day after the Challenger explosion. And I think on news stations and such, there were discussions about the fact that people would be joking about it so soon.


I remember that....I was in college when that happened. I swear it seemed like only hours before we heard:

"What does NASA stand for?.......Need another seven astronauts."

"How man astronauts can you fit in a compact car?........11; two in the front, two in the back and seven in the ash tray"
This was my experience as well. And while I don't recall any 9-11 jokes immediately after that tragedy, I also was past the age of spending my time on playgrounds. I suspect schoolchildren were joking about the events pretty quickly, most likely using punchlines recycled from other tragedies, such as the Challenger explosion.


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JohnOAS
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Posted - 10/22/2007 :  16:13:11   [Permalink]  Show Profile  Visit JohnOAS's Homepage Send JohnOAS a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Originally posted by Dave W.

What's the point? The point is that three weeks after 9/11, professional comedians were howling "too soon!" at a one-liner about 9/11. But minutes later, those same comedians were howling with laughter at what is probably the most tasteless joke in the world


Gilbert was a reasonably regular guest on Penn's now defunct radio show, and I remember him telling that exact story, in fact I had that episode in my mind when I started this thread. I have most of them as mp3 files on a hard drive somewhere, but finding the exact episode may be a little tricky. The Penn Fans site also had a pretty good archive, although I haven't been there in ages.

Originally posted by Dave W.

Just goes to show that there's no accounting for taste.

Absolutely. And that's a good thing.

On the whole I'll agree with what a few people have more or less said; have at it as early as you like, but be aware that there may be consequences.

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Valiant Dancer
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Posted - 10/22/2007 :  16:25:08   [Permalink]  Show Profile  Visit Valiant Dancer's Homepage Send Valiant Dancer a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Originally posted by astropin

Originally posted by Cuneiformist

As a kid, I recall hearing jokes the day after the Challenger explosion. And I think on news stations and such, there were discussions about the fact that people would be joking about it so soon.


I remember that....I was in college when that happened. I swear it seemed like only hours before we heard:

"What does NASA stand for?.......Need another seven astronauts."

"How man astronauts can you fit in a compact car?........11; two in the front, two in the back and seven in the ash tray"


I think it was my fresman year of college. I started hearing several of them within a week.

What was the last transmission from Challenger? No, I wanted a Bud Light.

What color were Christa McAuliff's eyes? Blue. One blew that way and the other blew the other way.

What did Christa McAuliff say to her kids before she left? You feed the dog and I'll feed the fish.

It was a needed bit of gallows humor to snap people out of the horror of what had happened.

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